25 Things About Me

1. I love make-up though I don't have the patience to apply it. So I have loads of barely used foundations, eye shadows, blushers..
2. I can read only when we are travelling - in trains, flights, buses. I find it difficult to read at home. Lucky that I have been travelling a lot.
3. I used to love reading and sometime after B-school started finding reading a chore. I have started reading again over the last 2 years and am enjoying every bit of it.
4. I love baking and have considerably expanded my experiments in the last year including baking a bread. It turned out quite good if you must know.
5. I am an idol of neatness in my house, however, find myself throwing clothes on the bed, leaving shoes all over when I go back to mum's place.
6. I love flowers and am super excited about the new stephanodus plant we have recently bought. I am also thrilled when my christmas cactus blooms every year.
7. I don't have a green thumb and have killed plants in the past. Fingers crossed for the stephanodus.
8. I am not a good liar. I tend to be quite transparent about my feelings and they become evident even if I don't say anything.
9. I love dressing up and always plan ahead what I want to wear. Though I am quite undecisive and always try 2-3 things for an evening out.
10. I love calling people over and have cozy get togethers with wine, conversation and simple food. I also like decorating my house up when I call people over.
11. Travelling is my passion - I love researching places to go to, where to eat etc. I cut out articles from travel sections of newspapers and magazines for my wishlist scrapbook.
12. I love the vibrancy of NYC, the choice of things to do, places to eat, shows to watch and people to meet.
13. I miss going to India more often. I feel depressed that everytime we visit, less and less things are familiar.
14. I want my children to grow up amid the sights and sounds I grew up with. I want them to recognize the smell of jasmine flowers, the thrill of lighting up the house on diwali, the fun of community festivals like durga puja. I know I can bring all this to them in the US as well but I will much prefer to raise them in India.
15. I love hindi movies and my tolerance for them has increased since I moved abroad. There are very few movies that I strongly dislike.
16. I think I am lucky to have found the hubby. He is a much better person than I am.
17. I love walking ..and swimming. Hubby calls me a fish.
18. I love dancing ..especially after a couple of drinks when some hindi music is playing..
19. I don't like my job and usually don't like talking about it. I am having a bad day at work and thats why this is even mentioned here.
20. I strongly believe in work-life balance and like my weekends free and taking my whole holiday quota for the year. Till now I have managed pretty well with this.
21. I had bangs cut for the first time last year in summer and unexpectedly loved them. I got a lot of compliments and I NEVER get complimented on my hair.
22. I feel like I haven't found my calling yet - what I would really love to do for a living. I get bored with things pretty quickly.
23. I am talkative and funny when I am with friends, people I know. However, become totally shy and quiet among strangers.
24. I have realized that I am becoming more picky about people I hang out with and less tolerant of rudeness or people who don't know their manners.
25. My new year resolution is to celebrate all festivals or at least mark them somehow even if with a small token. I don't like days which used to be all so important when we were growing up slipping by unnoticed now.

India trip musings

I had a fantastic trip to India end of Dec. After a few years, it felt like a holiday when I could relax and catch up with friends. Last few years India trips have been a haze rushing from one city to other. One trip, we were in 4 cities in 3 weeks! So this time I decided to put my foot down on various parents and in-laws plan to take us to various religious places or cities to meet random extended family who I am sure is not exactly dying to meet us. We were in Bombay for a week and Delhi for 2 weeks. Bombay was so cool - Sourabh and I used to hang out all day discovering coffee shops and meeting friends for lunch. We went and had lunch in cafe Leopold's, coffee at Mocha and a place called Moshe's which was exactly like a restaurant in NY city. We spent time with papa in the evenings and went to Haaji Ali juice center with him (strawberries and cream are to die for!). I could also catch up with a lot of friends who have been very close at various points in my life, who I have sort of stayed in touch with but not had a proper chat session in years. Delhi was more boisterous family time, playing with the niece, jalebis and milk every night, frequent trips to Wengers, lunch at Big Chill, nostalgic trip with old girl friends to the railway colony.

It was very hard to come back, especially as I was coming without Sourabh to cold NYC. But I must say, once I was here, I really enjoyed the snow, getting back to the old routine, shopping with crazy discounts everywhere. Maybe I have finally accepted that India is no longer where I live and may never live again. It will always be home and trips back always full of nostalgia but maybe where I am is not half bad and it is time to build my own traditions, my own memories here which my children can feel nostalgic about. That the memories I have no longer exist with my family scattered with me caught in the cross-fire. That every trip back home comes with a considerable amount of pain as I come face to face with my parents separation and the loneliness they live with.

Vegas, Baby!

Today I realized that the blog is a wonderful place to document vacations. We usually do so much research before going anywhere, buying lonely planet, picking out recommended places to eat that I feel we should record it somewhere for us to go back and remember and even to share our recommendations with others. I hope to go back and write about our previous vacations - Bermuda, Peru, San Fran, Bahamas, Prague, Brekenridge (Denver) sometime, however, for now is our latest advent Vegas!

Day 1: We stayed in the Mandalay Bay hotel and the first morning decided to check out the buffet which Vegas is famous for! Turns out it was a bad idea to start with the breakfast buffet. Don't get me wrong, the buffet was awesome and after stuffing ourselves for 2 hours and 4 rounds and the MS disappointed that we didn't do justice to the dessert, we really couldn't move. I mean literally as we went to our room and slept for the entire afternoon!! In the evening we got dressed and ventured out. We walked to the MGM Grand and had a drink. The hotel was not really impressive and was actually hideous from the outside, but we had tickets for a show called 'Crazy Horse' there and decided it was best to hang around it. Everything in Vegas seems a little plush, little grand. Our bar was in the middle of the casino surrounded by comfy leather couches and the girls who were bartending would occasionally get up on the bar and dance (!!). The show was nice - it apparently has its origins in Moulin Rouge of Paris and was very sexy. This reminds me one of the songs they danced to was 'I am a good girl"..go listen to it, deliciously naughty!! By the time the show got over, most restaurants were shutting down as it was thanksgiving thursday so we had a quick dinner at an Asian place and headed back to our hotel, tired and sleepy. Don't know why tired but we again slept like babies!

Day 2: This time we were more planned. We walked down to Paris as the weather was gorgeously sunny and right outside the hotel there was a sign saying "join us for pastries and coffee on the patio". This was of course sufficient temptation for us to veer towards the direction of the sign. We sat outside on a lovely terrace with a beautiful fountain on the side with coffee, a huge banana nut muffin and a blueberry scone. It was perfect. After a while, fountains of the Bellagio across the road started up and I felt like I was really in Paris (not that I have seen dancing fountains in Paris ever!). Anyhoo, we walked through the entire insides of the hotel and it was absolutely amazing how they have replicated the whole city with little touches inside complete with corner cafes, Parfumeries and what have you. We then walked to Bellagio and the Caeser's palace hotel. Caeser's palace was beautiful as well with Rome replicated in the shopping area. By then our legs had given way - we grabbed a quick lunch at Chipotle and headed back to our room for a quick nap. We had tickets to go see Cirque de soleil's show O in the evening and I was so excited! And it did not disappoint. It was the most spectacular show I have ever seen. I don't know how they get water on stage or those Olympic calibre divers, but it was just phenomenal! After that we headed to the Venetian for dinner. Another beautiful hotel with Venice with Gondolas, canals etc replicated. We went to the highly recommended Tao for dinner. Though an hour wait for a 10:30 reservation was a bit much, the food made up for it. They even gave us a line pass for the super popular club next doors, however, we were too tired to party and called it a day.

Day 3: The day started with the famous Bellagio brunch buffet (yes, we really don't learn). We then decided to figure out the public transportation in Vegas and took the monorail to the Wynn. I have this fascination for the public transportation and love figuring it out in new cities and get a great sense of achievement if we can manage a trip without using cabs, just walking, buses, trams/subway. So anyway, monorail was very disappointing to say the least (more on that sometime else) but the Wynn was a wonderful surprise. It is one of the lesser known hotels in Vegas probably because it is more 'residential' and does not mimick any famous city like New York, Paris, Rome, Venice etc. However, it is absolutely beautiful complete with high green hills with waterfalls. You can sit in one of their many terraces, sip coffee/cocktail and look out at one of these waterfalls and you'll never guess you are in Vegas. We then sauntered off to the Venetian to appreciate it by the day light. By the time we walked back to our hotel, it was already close to our flight time and my legs had completely given way.

To conclude, don't listen to anyone who says Vegas is good only by the night. It looks just as beautiful by the day if you can get the right weather. And oh, the food! I have already shortlisted the restaurants for my next trip!

Thoughts on the Mumbai incident

• I have been glued to my computer over the last 3 days reading as much as I can on the Mumbai attacks as pundits analyze, city residents reminisce the good times and Indians everywhere mourn the attacks. The more I read, the more helpless and pessimistic I feel. There is the same sense of outrage after every incident and then we go back to our usual humbug existence. But what choice do we have, what can we do? I don't know but I am looking for answers. I don't think the incidence will mean our politicians will wake up or even overhaul our intelligence agency. As things settle down, we will not remember about the modernization of forces, the need to get them proper bullet proof vest, until something else happens.
• We were in Vegas over the Thanksgiving weekend but ended up being stuck to TV for almost the entire Thursday, thankful that CNN had chosen to cover it live rather than ignore it like other non-US news. Even after, I felt vaguely guilty going out and enjoying myself when a crisis was going on in my country. I felt I am expressing my solidarity by tracking it on the news, don't ask me why.
• People have asked me if I am still going ahead with my India plans, specifically Mumbai. Of course I am!! In fact I want to there sooner and for longer. I feel the need to touch the air, breathe it, fell the same things my friends and family are feeling there. The thought of cancelling the trip didn't even cross my mind. We will be there and visit the Taj and travel in a train and do anything to show solidarity. If I wanted to move back to India for good sometime in the future before the incident, I want to even more now. It is my country and I signed up to stand by its side in good and bad times. The attack has brought out some emotions in me which I didn't know existed.
• I spoke to my sister who is in Delhi and she said that for the first time, she is afraid to step out of the house. You never know what happens next. Is this really what it has come to?

20 ...oops 18 questions

I decided to do a tag that has been floating on many blogs since I wanted to think about some answers. Here goes...was fun to do!


1. If your lover betrayed you what will your reaction be?
shock followed by venting my anger followed by moving on.

2. If you could have one dream come true which one would it be?
To find something I love doing which also pays a lot!..hah!

3. Whose butt would you like to kick?
Rude people - anywhere - on the subway, on the street. Wife beaters, child abusers.

4. What would you do with a billion dollars?
Travel! everywhere...maybe starting with Ecuador.

5. Will you fall in love with your best friend?
I think she'll be petrified!

6. Which is more blessed loving someone or being loved by someone?
Being loved by someone hands down.

7. How long would you wait for someone you love?
Not sure what this means - I guess I don't believe in waiting.

8. If the person you like is secretly attached, what would you do?
Break off contact and move on.

9. If you could root for one social cause which one would it be?
education

10. What takes you down the fastest?
dumb people and rude people.

11. Where do you see yourself in 10 yrs time?
happy with hubby, 2 kids and a big beautiful house. And oh yeah, satisfied with work.

12. What's your fear?
Snakes and dark places

13. Would you rather be single and rich or married and poor?
This cannot be answered - too hard..

14. What is the first thing you do when you wake up?
shut off the alarm and go back to sleep

15. If you fall in love with two people simultaneously who would pick?
The one that loves me back.

16. Would you give all in a relationship?
Absolutely, no two ways about it.

17. If you could sleep with one celebrity who would it be?
Abhishek Bachchan....sigh!

18. Do you prefer being single or in a relationship?
In a relationship any day. I love having someone around to torture!

Cozying up with a cup of tea

I came across this quote today: “Tea is quiet and it takes a quiet palate to appreciate something that calls so little attention to itself.” - James Norwood Pratt in the New Tea Lover’s Treasury. ....and my first thought was that is so true!! I have had a love-hate relation with beverages. Growing up we never had tea, coffee and had limited carbonated drinks. There was no restriction as such but I guess mum just kept us busy with other drinks like lemonade, mango shake, thandai, jal jeera, nishasta (ground almonds and raisins in milk), fresh carrot juice that I guess we never felt the need to have anything else. As a result, today I can't even finish half a can of Pepsi/Coke - it is just too bubbly. I did develop a taste for instant coffee later on but it was like a spoonful of coffee in a glass of milk (I can see all you coffee connoisuers smirking!). When I moved to London (I need to stop using that phrase - feels like I have compartmentalized my life in 3 cities, anyways, I digress), I absolutely abhorred the black coffee you got everywhere and when I didn't understand why would you put cold milk on top as that makes the entire drink cold. I can safely say that my taste of tea and coffee developed only when I started living with S. I am still not a regular drinker of coffee but at least I can now appreciate good coffee and more importantly distinguish between good and bad coffee. Moreover, I am in love with the small cafes in NY and can sit in them for hours (call me for recommendations). When I sink in a comfortable couch in such a cafe with a coffee and a book or a laptop, no one can make me get up for hours. For tea, I have been introduced to a whole new world of mint, jasmine, herb teas which I didn't know existed and tea places which had 300 teas on their menu! I am always trying new flavours and have probably picked up tea from all the countries I have travelled to in the past year including a packet of dried flowers from Prague which suspiciously looked like pot pourri. I am not a big fan of the traditional Indian chai or as S calls it the truckdriver chai, the ginger concoction has definitely provided great comfort during sick days.

Next in my wish list is to buy a colourful tea set with bright coloured mugs and a colourful kettle with a teacozy. As to what will I do with it? Will hope someone more skilled in the kitchen than me can make tea and serve me in it!

Seasons come and seasons go

Whats your favourite season? Mine have changed depending on where I live. In Delhi, it was definitely spring, when the bitter cold of the winter has ended but there is a lovely nip in the air. You can enjoy the sun without getting burnt and you can wear a smart jacket without bundling up. I think it also helped that my birthday is in Feb, S asked me out in Feb so I always associated the month with gorgeous weather and lots of occasions to celebrate! I can't say I had a favourite season in my next city of abode - London as the weather all through the year was dull and grey apart from one week in August if we were lucky. So when I moved to New York, S thought I had been living in the north pole and hadn't seen the sun in years. I would be chirpy on sunny days and would hound him to go out on sunny weekends or find a good spot on our couch which caught the sun and sit there for hours. The good thing about NY is that it is sunny even if it is 20 degrees below zero.

So going back to the topic at hand, my favourite season here was undoubtedly the summer - apart from perfect 20 degree (Celsius) days, there were so many things to do - free concerts in the park, outdoor seating in restaurants, colourful clothes..there is vibrancy in the air! I would be depressed by the time November came for the thought of 6 cold months. However, I have strange spring in the step this year in spite of the cold. I am liking the cool air on my face and looking forward to the festivities of Christmas with the whole city lit up like a Christmas tree. I am looking forward to wearing my woollen skirts and knee high boots. Do you think there is a chance that maybe, just maybe I am adjusted to the weather here finally? Or will I be eating my words in February when the wind hits me and I stop feeling my fingers and face? I don't know but for now I am happy and soaking in the chill in the air.

I leave you with a picture of me sunning myself.